Thursday, February 4, 2016
Meltdowns 2-3-14
I tried to ask Brianna what happened and all I could get is that they were doing some race and she was on a team and she said Eli who was on her team was being mean to her and it hurt her feelings so she cried. So I called Becky and she told me the opposite and that Brianna was mad because she wasn't as fast as the rest of them and started crying and Eli was actually trying to console her and was being super sweet to her and Becky finally told him to leave her alone.
Wednesday, January 27, 2016
Stealing 3rd Offense 1/27/15
After having 2 good days at school, which has been quite some time since that has happened, I received this text message from the principal today: After she got home, I tried to get her to finish her homework which turned into a tirade. I had some verses on stealing that I wanted her to write out too and this is what that ended up looking like:
Tuesday, January 5, 2016
2nd Offense Stealing -Gatorade 1/5/16
I found an unopened Gatorade bottle in Brianna's backpack today that she claimed she got at the cafeteria. She had her first intramural basketball game and seemed to have a GREAT time!
She had ISS - in school suspension and had to sit in the office and do worksheets all day. You would think this would motivate her to be good, but the very next day, I had to pick her up from school because she had gotten so out of hand during music class and apparently pushed a girl pretty hard. Then she was being disrespectful to the teacher and the principal.
She had ISS - in school suspension and had to sit in the office and do worksheets all day. You would think this would motivate her to be good, but the very next day, I had to pick her up from school because she had gotten so out of hand during music class and apparently pushed a girl pretty hard. Then she was being disrespectful to the teacher and the principal.
Sunday, January 3, 2016
Broccoli and the Beast
It's lunch time and I chop or slice different green vegetables as I have done many times. I let the kids choose which vegetable they want. I have done this so often, I no longer have to ask because I know which vegetables they like and have chosen in the past so this time, I just give Brianna broccoli because EVERY other time I have given her the choice between cucumbers, green peppers or broccoli, she ALWAYS chooses broccoli and she always eats it just fine. Well, today she decided she "didn't like" broccoli and the beast has been unleashed. The rule is that they have to eat their vegetable if they want anything else to eat the rest of the day. She simply refuses ALL day long to eat a few little pieces of broccoli and makes the entire day miserable for us all. sigh. . . .
Monday, December 14, 2015
Stealing Shay's Snacks
It has been a ROUGH week with Brianna. It was her birthday week so she was Top Banana at school all week so she got to bring pictures to put on the bulletin board, she got to bring a show and tell each day and she got to bring cupcakes on her birthday. Mrs. Clark did a phenomenal job of making her feel super special. Daddy took her out for breakfast to the donut shop and I took her out to Chilis for a birthday lunch. She got a new bike, which she has been wanting among other presents.
The response we get, which is typical of Brianna if we shower her with love and affection is TROUBLE. She refused to write in her planner 3 of the 5 days. I asked her about it on Tuesday and she said "there was no homework so there was nothing to write down." (LIE). Then on Friday I receive this note from Mrs. Clark:
So, not only is she not writing in her planner, she is not bringing her reading homework home to do either. Becky also said that when she brought her pictures to put on the bulletin board, she didn't want to because she wanted to keep them in her picture flip album and so Becky allowed her and even let her go through all the pictures and explain each of them to the class (there were probably like 20-25 pictures) since they weren't going on the board to look at. Then, the next day, Brianna decided she wanted to put them on the board, which Becky didn't allow because she didn't want to take more time out of class. By Friday, Becky had had enough of some of the kids goofing off and not getting their work done so she chose to award those who worked diligently and finished their work with doing some painting. Brianna had a full fledged wailing fit about that because she didn't get her work done. That same day, Brianna chose not to eat the lunch that I had packed, but instead to buy a hot lunch. The other kids told on her because they noticed at lunch time that she was eating hot lunch and they asked her why and she said she forgot her lunch in the van (LIE). When she got in the van, I asked her why she didn't eat her lunch and she said she left her lunch in the van. We all saw her walk out of the school with her lunchbox so she did not leave it in the van. So we confronted her with that lie and she said, "No, I meant I left it in the classroom." Anyway, everything in her lunch was gone except one item so I asked if she at both lunches at lunchtime and she said, "No, I ate it at snack time" and so I said, "so you ate your snack and your lunch at snack time?" "Yes", she says. Later I get a phone call from Becky explaining that Brianna was not allowed to have her snack because she didn't get her work done so another LIE. So I confront Brianna with that lie and say, "so where is your lunch?" "I put it in my desk". What the heck? Why couldn't she have just said that the first time??? Becky said that this is what she has noticed about Brianna, "She is perfectly fine and sweet unless I have to tell her no to something"
Then today, I received another phone call from Becky Clark saying that Shay has been missing her snack for the past 3 days. Today, they found the wrapper in Brianna's desk and crumbs all around her desk. When confronted with it, she said that I had sent her with cheese crackers, which I did not.(LIE)
She had a snack leftover from Friday along with half of her lunch that she hid in her desk because she chose to buy a hot lunch instead of eating the lunch that I packed. I send her a snack every day so I am not sure why she feels the need to steal Shay's snack.
Oh, and upon washing her bed this week, I discovered all of this in her pillow case:
I am at my wit's end. January 11th cannot come fast enough. I am exhausted with this behavior.
The response we get, which is typical of Brianna if we shower her with love and affection is TROUBLE. She refused to write in her planner 3 of the 5 days. I asked her about it on Tuesday and she said "there was no homework so there was nothing to write down." (LIE). Then on Friday I receive this note from Mrs. Clark:
So, not only is she not writing in her planner, she is not bringing her reading homework home to do either. Becky also said that when she brought her pictures to put on the bulletin board, she didn't want to because she wanted to keep them in her picture flip album and so Becky allowed her and even let her go through all the pictures and explain each of them to the class (there were probably like 20-25 pictures) since they weren't going on the board to look at. Then, the next day, Brianna decided she wanted to put them on the board, which Becky didn't allow because she didn't want to take more time out of class. By Friday, Becky had had enough of some of the kids goofing off and not getting their work done so she chose to award those who worked diligently and finished their work with doing some painting. Brianna had a full fledged wailing fit about that because she didn't get her work done. That same day, Brianna chose not to eat the lunch that I had packed, but instead to buy a hot lunch. The other kids told on her because they noticed at lunch time that she was eating hot lunch and they asked her why and she said she forgot her lunch in the van (LIE). When she got in the van, I asked her why she didn't eat her lunch and she said she left her lunch in the van. We all saw her walk out of the school with her lunchbox so she did not leave it in the van. So we confronted her with that lie and she said, "No, I meant I left it in the classroom." Anyway, everything in her lunch was gone except one item so I asked if she at both lunches at lunchtime and she said, "No, I ate it at snack time" and so I said, "so you ate your snack and your lunch at snack time?" "Yes", she says. Later I get a phone call from Becky explaining that Brianna was not allowed to have her snack because she didn't get her work done so another LIE. So I confront Brianna with that lie and say, "so where is your lunch?" "I put it in my desk". What the heck? Why couldn't she have just said that the first time??? Becky said that this is what she has noticed about Brianna, "She is perfectly fine and sweet unless I have to tell her no to something"
Then today, I received another phone call from Becky Clark saying that Shay has been missing her snack for the past 3 days. Today, they found the wrapper in Brianna's desk and crumbs all around her desk. When confronted with it, she said that I had sent her with cheese crackers, which I did not.(LIE)
She had a snack leftover from Friday along with half of her lunch that she hid in her desk because she chose to buy a hot lunch instead of eating the lunch that I packed. I send her a snack every day so I am not sure why she feels the need to steal Shay's snack.
Oh, and upon washing her bed this week, I discovered all of this in her pillow case:
I am at my wit's end. January 11th cannot come fast enough. I am exhausted with this behavior.
Tuesday, November 17, 2015
Sneaking Things to School
On Wednesday, I received this text from Mrs. Clark:
"After morning program, Brianna had a hard time settling down to work. After several warnings, I sent her out to the hall. She spent about 5 minutes in the hall and came back in with a much better attitude. She lost 5 minutes of recess and the rest of the day she did awesome. I still felt like I should let you know. I did not send her home with a note"
Brianna knew that a note did not come home, so I asked her after school, "So, how was your day? Did you get in trouble at all." Her happy response, "No". I then go on to explain to her the text I received and that she needs to sit in her room until dinner and that she cannot go to Awanas because our rule is that if you get in trouble at school, you get in trouble at home. And if it is on an Awanans night, then you miss Awanas. She has missed Awanas the past 3-4 weeks because she always seems to get in trouble on Wednesdays.
So on Friday, I found out from Cooper that Brianna had her church boots at school. She knows I do not want her to wear her nice church boots to school because the playground gets them nasty and then they do not look nice for church. So, she snuck them in her backpack while wearing a different pair to school. She of course had to sit in her room until dinner for that. I spoke with her about it and told her she needed to bring them home on Monday.
Monday rolls around and Jeff sees her barefoot in the gym at recess. Then he sees her putting on her boots barefoot after recess. She doesn't bring them home from school on Monday either. As I am unpacking her backpack, I notice that she has snuck a pair of flip flops into her backpack as well, which kids are not even allowed to wear flip flops to school and not to mention it was raining and cold. I question her with "Brianna, why is there a pair of flip flops in your backpack." Here is her response, "I accidentally grabbed them when I was grabbing my tennis shoes". So I say, "Accidentally? So you wore flip flops to school instead of tennis shoes?" She says, "No". Then I say, "Well, did you accidentally put your flip flops in your backpack too?" At this point she knew she was caught lying, which she does multiple times each day. I asked her, "Did you even wear the flip flops at school" She says, "No". So basically the only reason she put them in her backpack was to disobey me and to make me angry for sneaking them to school when she knows she is not supposed to. I simply cannot understand this. I have never seen a child WANT to get in trouble so badly. It is as if she thrives off of being in trouble all the time.
I am so exhausted by her and her lying. I made her have eggs for dinner, which I haven't done in a long time because most times it's not worth the battle, but I am just SO upset with her and there aren't any consequences that seem to make any difference whatsoever in her behavior.
I am calling the counselor today........
"After morning program, Brianna had a hard time settling down to work. After several warnings, I sent her out to the hall. She spent about 5 minutes in the hall and came back in with a much better attitude. She lost 5 minutes of recess and the rest of the day she did awesome. I still felt like I should let you know. I did not send her home with a note"
Brianna knew that a note did not come home, so I asked her after school, "So, how was your day? Did you get in trouble at all." Her happy response, "No". I then go on to explain to her the text I received and that she needs to sit in her room until dinner and that she cannot go to Awanas because our rule is that if you get in trouble at school, you get in trouble at home. And if it is on an Awanans night, then you miss Awanas. She has missed Awanas the past 3-4 weeks because she always seems to get in trouble on Wednesdays.
So on Friday, I found out from Cooper that Brianna had her church boots at school. She knows I do not want her to wear her nice church boots to school because the playground gets them nasty and then they do not look nice for church. So, she snuck them in her backpack while wearing a different pair to school. She of course had to sit in her room until dinner for that. I spoke with her about it and told her she needed to bring them home on Monday.
Monday rolls around and Jeff sees her barefoot in the gym at recess. Then he sees her putting on her boots barefoot after recess. She doesn't bring them home from school on Monday either. As I am unpacking her backpack, I notice that she has snuck a pair of flip flops into her backpack as well, which kids are not even allowed to wear flip flops to school and not to mention it was raining and cold. I question her with "Brianna, why is there a pair of flip flops in your backpack." Here is her response, "I accidentally grabbed them when I was grabbing my tennis shoes". So I say, "Accidentally? So you wore flip flops to school instead of tennis shoes?" She says, "No". Then I say, "Well, did you accidentally put your flip flops in your backpack too?" At this point she knew she was caught lying, which she does multiple times each day. I asked her, "Did you even wear the flip flops at school" She says, "No". So basically the only reason she put them in her backpack was to disobey me and to make me angry for sneaking them to school when she knows she is not supposed to. I simply cannot understand this. I have never seen a child WANT to get in trouble so badly. It is as if she thrives off of being in trouble all the time.
I am so exhausted by her and her lying. I made her have eggs for dinner, which I haven't done in a long time because most times it's not worth the battle, but I am just SO upset with her and there aren't any consequences that seem to make any difference whatsoever in her behavior.
I am calling the counselor today........
Thursday, November 12, 2015
Need to Start a Journal
This has been the hardest 4 years of parenting I have EVER had to do. I keep thinking it's going to get better, but it doesn't. I am exhausted with trying different methods of parenting. Love. Grace. Consequences. Separation.
I wish I would have been journaling these past 4 years, but hopefully I can do better. I have to put this in writing to try to keep a log of her behaviors so maybe one day we can make sense of it.
She has been in TROUBLE a lot, a lot, a lot lately. I have tried being super loving these past couple weeks. Laying in bed with her talking to her, cuddling with her. The nicer I get, the worse her behavior becomes. It makes NO sense to me.
Last week, she got in trouble at school and was supposed to bring a behavior report home. She threw it away. Her teacher, Becky Clark, contacted me via email. Correspondence and report below.
I wish I would have been journaling these past 4 years, but hopefully I can do better. I have to put this in writing to try to keep a log of her behaviors so maybe one day we can make sense of it.
She has been in TROUBLE a lot, a lot, a lot lately. I have tried being super loving these past couple weeks. Laying in bed with her talking to her, cuddling with her. The nicer I get, the worse her behavior becomes. It makes NO sense to me.
Last week, she got in trouble at school and was supposed to bring a behavior report home. She threw it away. Her teacher, Becky Clark, contacted me via email. Correspondence and report below.
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