Thursday, November 12, 2015

Need to Start a Journal

This has been the hardest 4 years of parenting I have EVER had to do.  I keep thinking it's going to get better, but it doesn't.  I am exhausted with trying different methods of parenting.  Love.  Grace.  Consequences.  Separation.


I wish I would have been journaling these past 4 years, but hopefully I can do better.  I have to put this in writing to try to keep a log of her behaviors so maybe one day we can make sense of it.

She has been in TROUBLE a lot, a lot, a lot lately.  I have tried being super loving these past couple weeks.  Laying in bed with her talking to her, cuddling with her.  The nicer I get, the worse her behavior becomes.  It makes NO sense to me.

Last week, she got in trouble at school and was supposed to bring a behavior report home.  She threw it away.  Her teacher, Becky Clark, contacted me via email.   Correspondence and report below.

Marci Holley <marcikholley@gmail.com>Wed, Nov 4, 2015 at 9:22 AM

To: Becky Clark <bclark@wcsbartlesville.org>

I am so sorry!  Thank you for alerting me. I really like this Behavior Report system because last year Brianna would intentionally not bring her planner home or take out or scribble out the notes so I would not see them. 

 I have been meaning to get with you to see if she has been doing any better with the crying when she has to redo things.  I have been asking her about it and she has told me that she hasn't been doing it anymore, but I wanted to double check with you.
Thanks!
Marci

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Marci Holley <marcikholley@gmail.com>Wed, Nov 4, 2015 at 9:27 AM

To: Becky Clark <bclark@wcsbartlesville.org>

Oh, just realized you said this was sent YESTERDAY.  No, I did not receive it.  It is hard telling what she did with it.  She did this last year too.  You will probably have to email me the notes.  :(

On Wed, Nov 4, 2015 at 9:06 AM, Becky Clark <bclark@wcsbartlesville.org> wrote:
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Becky Clark <BClark@wcsbartlesville.org>Wed, Nov 4, 2015 at 10:39 AM

To: Marci Holley <marcikholley@gmail.com>

Marci,
Brianna told me she gave you the note yesterday and she was sent to her room until the babysitter came. That was quite a detailed lie (very creative). 
In the future I will send an email as well as the note in the planner. I just like the idea of them bringing it to you and getting it signed. I think it reinforces them owning their mistake. 

To answer your question about Brianna crying- she has not had one problem with tears in quite a while. That shows a lot of improvement for her in that area!!  

Thank you for your email.  I will print the note and send it home again in the planner.  I will let her know you will be looking for it. 

Blessings,
Becky Clark

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Marci Holley <marcikholley@gmail.com>Wed, Nov 4, 2015 at 10:53 AM

To: Becky Clark <BClark@wcsbartlesville.org>

Wow!  Nope, she did get sent to her room after school for a bit because her and Cooper were fighting and I was on the phone and I sent them both to their rooms, but it had nothing to do with the note that I never received.  I like the idea of them bringing the note home too, other than the fact that Brianna has a problem with giving them to me.
 
I am glad she has improved in the crying area. :)

It is so frustrating and embarrassing when your child is acting this way in school.  Bold face lying to her teacher.  She was given a chance to bring it home again and she threw it in the trash AGAIN the next day!!!!
 

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